People whose values and perspectives align with the majority can sit back and demand that the rest conform to their values, and judge them for being annoying or socially clueless. As you get older, you realize that you spent most of your life trying to appease these people just so that you can survive. Meanwhile your true self is in a closet, unable to become what it truly is.
It’s not just homosexuals who put themselves in closets. We all are scared of exposing who we are (unless you are squarely part of the majority).
As we get older, with less and less time left to live, we realize the pointlessness of worrying about other people’s feelings because different people’s feelings will be hurt no matter what we say. And, ultimately, we have to ask ourselves: What exactly are we achieving when we manage not to hurt anyone’s feelings?