My nagging ration system: Nagging works like currency. If you nag your kids too often, the effect of each nagging diminishes. So, you end up nagging louder every time. (If you print too much money, the general price level goes up in the economy, because the value of each dollar goes down.) So you need to control the supply of nagging like a central bank. You make a note of how many times you nagged your kids in a day and pace yourself to use only a fixed number of nagging, like say, 10 times a day. If your kid does something annoying, like leaving the refrigerator door open, and if you’ve already used up your daily ration of nagging, you just have to take care of it yourself, because nagging more would trigger a downward spiral of inflation. Overall, you will be less effective at managing your kid’s behavior.
THOUGHTS IN PROGRESS
April 17, 2013
Although we tend to see ourselves as one of many people we experience in our own lives, in reality, we cannot experience our own “self” in the same way we can experience anyone else, or anything else. For instance, we can’t shake our own hands, buy something from ourselves, or debate with ourselves. Even if we tried, the experience wouldn’t be the same; it would be an imitation or simulation of what we do with others.
Our self is a totality of our experience. The fact that we seem to be able to experience ourselves is an illusion, a bewitchment of our language. We cannot define ourselves any more than we can shake our own hands in a mirror.
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